September 30, 2022
Why did I leave dating apps like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge?

In April, I made a decision: I removed the hinge. It was the last of the dating apps left on my phone.

In addition to Hinge, I’ve tried Tinder, Bumble, The League and JDate and spent hundreds of hours hoping to find that coveted long-term relationship.

But I am still single. And I’m so tired.

What seemed like a fun, low stakes at first to connect with the wild world of dating has turned into a depressing and soul-sucking task.

After five useless years, I will only be dating in the real world from now on.

my success rate is 4%

‘Like hitting a slot machine’

you can’t rush love

At 36, I’m trying to be more intentional about how I spend my time. There is evidence for such an attitude Improves well being. And the more intentional I get, the less patience I have for alternative activities that make me very unhappy, including online dating. They just don’t deserve it.

It’s been five months since I deleted the last dating app on my phone.

Now, instead of swiping and chatting with people whose vibes I can’t measure and only find to force conversation, I’m catching up with my grandma or reading a play or with friends. standing up (“just for us” was Very good,

Life is not without its regular frustrations (for example, I got covid a few weeks ago). But it’s filled with scrolling through random profiles and sending meaningless texts and, instead, activities and people I love.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m afraid of never meeting anyone as a result of this move.

Uncertainty is a worry, Russell Ramsay, Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of PennsylvaniaTold me once. And without a constant stream of “choices” life is nothing, if not uncertain.

But I’m also putting myself in more situations where I’m guaranteed to meet people. I have joined a writing group this year and have taken screenwriting and acting classes.

I have made room for more in my life.

Regardless of whether or not these experiences put me in front of the man of my dreams, I continue to be inspired and find joy and fulfillment in ways I didn’t know I had missed.

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